How To Pull Yourself Out of a Rut- Time for 2.0 YOU
It’s a really weird feeling to know that your current situation is wrong for you and that you need to make a change, but you just haven’t a damn clue on how to do it.
Hey guess what.
You're stuck in a rut.
Don't worry, I'm there with you.
The first time I was stuck in rut
Flashback to 20 something year old David.
I went through the motions of school and doing everything I was supposed to do:
Get good grades.
Get a car.
Get a good job.
Get a girlfriend.
Get a condo/house.
Get married (I was on this path but didn't do it) and work for 2 weeks vacation a year.
The problem was I never gave any thought to what I really wanted to do. I just went through the motions and then BAM, mediocre life.
I was quite obsessed with money, jobs and status
The more money the more successful right?
Money is certainly a sign of success…
It gives access to women and allows you to network with higher quality men.
But being one dimensional has it's traps too.
Lots of money with little time to enjoy it has very little value in all practical sense.
Great! I can take care of myself but I'm with a girl I'm not attracted to, I have a job I hate and I'm living in place I don't want to be.
Yea on the outside, everything is looking great.
On the inside, I was living a quite life of desperation.
Simple survival
Look, I always say things can be much worse.
Sam Bankman Fried is stuck in a prison cell for the next 30 some odd years. He is now just “surviving” just as well as the man who sits in a cubicle for 50 hours a week.
What's the difference?
The cubicle worker has money but limited freedom and feels like life is slipping away, the other has nothing but time to dwell and torture himself with his own thoughts on how he screwed up is life forever and obviously has zero freedom.
Both are surviving, but are both successful?
No.
Success is not merely survival.
Success is also not simply having lots of money.
Success as I define it is doing work that is helpful to other people, work you take satisfaction in where you're making a contribution to society and making a healthy profit so you can take care of yourself and the people you love both physically as well as spiritually.
Anything less than this is not success.
Stuck in rut again
The only thing worse than not getting what you want is getting it and watching it slip away.