Why Are You Old But Still Handsome?
I got this quote from a 20 year old girl I meet at a night club while out with friends. She really did not believe that I was 34.
27, 28, 29, sure. But mid 30’s NO WAY.
She had never been with any guy over 30 and just assumed 30 = old.
You’re supposed to be fat, bald, tired looking and wrinkly I guess. I found it really funny that a someone would think that.
But then I have to remember my early twenties self. I used to think 30s was old a bit too.
30 Year Old Men – The Lie You’re Told
The secret that men come to find out is that for a 30 year old men, if they take care of themselves (and emphasis on the IF) they are just entering their prime in terms of their sexual appeal.
You’ll look better, be more confident, have a better understanding of yourself and women and simply bring a whole lot more to the table.
Here are my “how to age well for men” tips
Let’s get the basic stuff out of the way:
- Minimize alcohol consumption
- Don’t smoke
- Drink more water
- Use sunscreen
- Eat right
- Fast everyday
1) Lay off the alcohol
Fun fact, I never really drank alcohol until I was about 28 years old. Before 28, I would drink maybe 1-3 beers a year. Now, I drink maybe every other weekend and when I do I’m a 1-2 beer sort of guy. In fact if I go out, my strategy is to have only 1 beer (as beer is bad for your testosterone) then switch to something else like wine or gin with soda water.
Anyways, alcohol ages you if you drink it in excess because it dehydrates your skin. If you want to look older than you are, develop a drinking habit and see what sort of personal hell that lands you in.
SO, tip number 1, make drinking a thing you rarely do if you want to stay young looking.
2) Don’t Smoke
Have you ever Googled “smoking identical twins?” Well you should. If you want a strong reason to stop smoking or doing drugs in general, this is it. One twin will look horrible and the other one will look normal. All because one twin decided to develop a smoking habit.
3) Drink More Water
Drinking water and staying hydrated is basic, boring but it works. Get used to drinking a bottle of water or so first thing in the morning.
Getting enough water on a day to day basis will keep your complexion looking great.
4) Use sunscreen you idiot
The sun is good for you, but too much will age you. Excessive sun will give you sunspots, wrinkles and skin damage if you’re not careful.
My personal experience is that you don’t need to apply sunscreen everyday. I certainly don’t but at the same time I avoid the sun as best I can.
I’ll only use sunscreen if I know I’m going to be out and about in the sun for a long period of time:
Going to the beach. A motorcycle trip. Wandering outside while in a city.
If you’re going to be exposed to the sun for more than 30 minutes, use sunscreen.
I know when you’re 20 you don’t care all about sunscreen, but of all the things on the list this is the most basic and effective at protecting your skin.
40 year old you will thank 20 year old you.
5) Eat Well
How can you expect to look good and feel good if you don’t supply your body with the needed nutrients and minerals?
Fruits, vegetables, meats, dairy in moderation, grains.
Diet is a personal thing. I like Jack Lalanne’s advice. If man makes it, don’t eat it.
Another way to think of it is if it did not exist 200 years ago, don’t eat it.
6) Fast everyday
I wrote a whole blog post intermittent fasting. It’s easily the best thing you can do for longevity purposes.
From my experience, it makes it so easy to maintain a lean body of 165 lbs at a 5 ft 9 inch height.
I eat two giant meals a day typically (800-1000 calories) and a snack.
Essential things to do as a 30 year old man
Already over 30? Here are something I’ve found very helpful for keeping me looking great and feeling great.
Supplement With Magnesium
Most of us are deficient in trace minerals due to soil depletion. You can simply start to supplement with some of the more important trace minerals for men.
Magnesium is responsible to so many bodily functions and makes a real difference in your sleep and energy levels.
If you want to age well, start taking magnesium every day or every other day. You want about 300-500 mg a dose.
Eat your sardines
A lot of people say fish has too much mercury or that fish oil supplements can go bad. All true.
But sardines are the exception. They are tiny fish that eat plants and are at the bottom of the food chain. They don’t live for very long and thus you don’t need to worry about any potential mercury issues.
I eat about 6 cans of sardines a week as a way to get my fatty acids from fish.
Skin Care Routine for 30+
All creams and serums are bullshit (mostly – I’ve not tried any I really like). They promise crazy things like anti-ageing and wrinkle reducing.
Don’t want wrinkles? Stop drinking beer and use sunscreen when outside.
Creams that are rich in retinol and vitamin e are good preventative medicine but they can’t reverse time.
What you should start doing is taking care of your skin by using an over the counter exfoliating face scrub.
Any face scrub will do, try different ones until you find something you like. Just use it in the evening when you take a shower.
Here are two products I really love.
Burts Bees Brightening Face Wash
This is my go to face wash. You can get it at a great price from Amazon or any big brand store in America.
Basically, you use this to wash your face while in the shower instead of bar of soap. It does actually make a difference.
This a proper face wash designed for your face.
The Ordinary Pro Retinoid 2%
Never heard of the Ordinary? That’s because they are a minimalistic skin care brand that focuses on word of mouth more than fancy marketing.
This 2% retinoid formula is perfect if you’re looking for something that is anti-aging. It actually makes a noticeable difference.
One thing to note is that this is a 2% formula and it’s quite strong. You apply this at night after you take a shower maybe two or three times a week.
The first time you use it it does burn a bit, but after your skin adjusts. You also need to use a small amount.
It’s not a sunscreen where you lather it on, just a tiny pea drop is all you need.
CO2 Laser for sunspots
I’ve had CO2 laser treatment before as well as a few of my older friends. I went to a skin care clinic in Bangkok. Paid $50 USD to have them zap some developing sun spots on my face.
As you age, sun spots are really inevitable if you’re a fair skinned white guy like me, but you can minimize their development which is what I did and continue to do.
But even with my best care practices, I still saw some potential spots developing and figured I would nip it in the butt now. Glad I did.
The whole process is that they simply apply numbing gel to your face and let it sit for 30 minutes. Then they zap the spots you want on your face with a surgical CO2 laser.
For older folks they’ll zap your whole face and you’ll be red like a tomato for a week. For me it was really just a few subtle spots.
Anyways, the recovery time for me was just 1 week. You’ll have to stay out of the sun for a week, and beyond that avoid the sun in general (which I already do).
The after a week, you’re skin will look great and will continue to improve months beyond that.
How to age well conclusion
Youth and beauty are privileges. It’s easier to go through life being good looking. Stay in shape, eat well and do your best to age well. I know this is not politically correct, but it’s the truth.