You can’t Build a Reputation on Dreams and Talk

To start working for yourself you actually have to start working for yourself.

Doing the quite work everyday of learning and applying, learning and applying, learning and applying is the way to achieve your goals. To move forward in any entreprenurial activity or high paying career field is to simply get in line, stay in line, and move forward in the line. To move forward just learn and apply – emphasis on the applying part if your an information junkie like me. It’s a bad habit I always have to keep in check.

It’s not magic when you see people who are top performers in their career field. They worked to get their because NO ONE starts at the top or in the middle. Everyone starts in the back, at the bottom.The success habits that are implement are to quite things that don’t work, to double down on the stuff that does, and to learn and apply new ideas to help them move forward.

So when I check Facebook you know what I see? Mental masturbation. Quotes, links to self help articles, religious stuff about god taking care of everything. Feel good stuff. But where’s the work?

You know, I really hate that movie and book “The Secret”, talk about mental masturbation. It’s all think happy thoughts and things will happen by magic. They won’t.

There is some truth to the law of attraction, reminiscent of the old adage, “the harder I worked the luckier I got”. Circumstance will correct itself to help you achieve your goals, or sometimes it will seem like it tests you to see how bad you want it. It’s all about interpretation.

A Story

My old friend James was a guy I knew back in college. We would talk about different business ideas, how great it would be to do something online, and we would equate building a successful business to having a healthy normal sex life…let me explain.

When you’re a virgin, you can’t imagine having sex on a regular basis because it’s not something that is apart of your life even though you want it to be. Then, through learning and applying eventually you’ll find that you’re not a virgin anymore 🙂 You will get to a point in your life where you can’t even imagine not having sex on a regular basis. Having a successful business is akin to this.

So we both had jobs lined up after we graduated. I was off to PwC and he was going to work for Ernst and Young in New York. We both knew this corporate job stuff was not a good fit for how we wanted to live our lives as the years ticked away…so we both talked about how long we would stay and when we would take the leap into something that could support ourselves.

Then we started our working lives. James got a girlfriend, got and apartment, got nice clothes, went to work parties, spent all his money on drugs and alcohol in NYC. Fast forward a year later and I was in the situation to support myself form web design and some income generating properties. I was planning on leaving America and heading off to Asia with my then girlfriend…and I did, and it was transformative for my life.

James? James is still working in a cubicle.

He has a decent salary and can support himself. So it’s not as treacherous as being jobless. But he spends his time posting motivational quotes and pictures about living life authentically and chasing ones dreams. He talks a lot about how he would like to do now but can not because his life overhead prevents him.

James does a whole lot of mental masturbation because he never puts the work in. He never follows through on his personal plans. He likes to think a lot, but does nothing to manifest those dreams into reality. Just like having sex for the first time, it’s really difficult to make money online for the first time. But when you start earning an income, it DOES become a skill, it does become a thing that is apart of your life until you get to the point where you can’t even imagine yourself having a job.

So stop the mental masturbation.

Stop talking about what you would like to do.

 

You can’t build a reputation on dreams and talk.