You can be whatever you want to be. Says every mother to child.
No you can’t.
Really, you can’t.
We’re not slabs of clay that can be shaped and molded into anything. We’re born with an inescapable path, destiny, whatever you want to call it.
We’re born already mean’t to do something and that something is how you spend a large portion of your life.
Figuring out what you we’re mean’t to be and to become it.
A writer writes, a traveler travels, a work-a-holic works.
We’re each on a specific path, our own path. This is why you don’t compare yourself to others, you compare yourself to who you were.
Are you following your path or are you following a path laid out by someone else?
Follow your interests
What you’re interested in, and equally what you hate is an odd thing if you really examine it.
Where does it come from? Why are you compelled to one thing but not something else? I have no idea and neither do you.
Your interests are simply a compass that indicate where you’re supposed to go and what you’re supposed to do.
When I was young man, we’re talking 21 years old I remember sitting in my business law professors office asking for advice.
He was a dynamic guy I really liked.
He asked me “if you had a magic wand and could be doing anything, what would you do” – to this I replied something along the lines of “travel” and “write” or something.
I had no idea how I could connect those into a money making venture. But it’s where my interests were.
I’m a bit introverted. I like doing quite work like writing or editing videos. I deeply wanted to travel and escape Connecticut too.
The idea of being like Gary V and being this one dimensional work-a-holic never ever appealed to me.
Neither did owning an orange lambo. I really just wanted to have an online business and travel.
But instead I continued blindly on the wrong path of accounting and finance to get one of those “good jobs.”
If you don’t follow what compels you, you’ll pay for it like you won’t believe
I ignored what I was interest in. What I felt compelled to do and instead did something I knew felt wrong but seemingly gave me respect in the eyes of my family, peers and myself.
It was comforting to know I would have a good job after school at PWC but reality will eventually set in.
If you don’t follow what you feel compelled to do, what is in you to do and instead play it safe you’ll pay for it like you won’t believe.
You’ll have everything bad about life and nothing good.
I was in a job I hated, that I was bad at and could never succeed in. I had a terrible relationship with someone I was not attracted to, I was fat and weak. I felt worried about my future and was trapped.
It took years, literally years to reverse this.
I spent years of my 20’s working temporary jobs (no benefits, hourly pay shit jobs) due to the 2008 financial crisis. Living at home with my parents after breaking up with my ex, being an out an out loser because of a lack of resources to support myself.
I eventually kept working, kept trying, having small breakthroughs online with my websites. I was actually making money from my online activtivies
I then went to Thailand to teach English and that allowed me to escape Connecticut, my family and everything I knew. That decision allowed me to establish my independence again, become the man I was supposed to be, become good at something and to start making enough money to support myself.
I also finally began to enjoy my life.
My warning to you is this –
If you ignore what your interest are and don’t do what is in you to do you will pay for it like you won’t believe.
You will have everything bad about life, nothing good and it will take years to fix.
Worse, some never even get a chance to fix their life and reverse course. They bury themselves too deep and ruin their lives with poor choices.
You have been warned.
You can’t be whatever you want to be.