Women all want the same top 20% of men. Not my opinion, it's literally backed up by data on how women behave on dating sites.

This really should be no surprise to most young men. Remember in high school where all the girls like the same 8 guys out of a class of 120 boys?

As I've gotten older I've realized a big difference between the two sexes.

Women have an abundance mindset when it comes to dating.

They always think they can do better - hypergamy basically.

They always think there is another 6-foot+ guy around the corner who's earning 200k per year. They don't realize how rare successful men are and how that small group of men have choice.

Most men however have a scarcity mindset and put up with a lot of bullshit from women because they're afraid to enforce boundaries and lose their only source of sex.

The reality is that a majority of men are decent, hard-working, average guys who earn between 40-60k a year.

But the thing is Attractive young women, and even basic average women today don't want an average guy.

So you can't be average anymore.

Become a dynamic and interesting man who has choice in life

So how do you become a top 20% man?

Here are some key aspects I've learned in my 40+ years of being alive over the years through my own personal growth on how to be a man women admire and other men respect and want to be like.

If this is your first time here, I'm a guy who went from working a corporate job in my 20s, to being a broke English teacher in Thailand (broke but enjoying life) to building an online business and being free.

No, I'm not some 20 year old kid writing about how to be a man. Anyways, let's get to it.

HOW TO BE A GREAT MAN

1) Life weights & exercise 3x a week minimum

Exercise is not just for physical development, it is for mental and physical health. You have to exercise to be healthy, in both mind and body.

Exercise just has to be a part of your daily routine just like shitting, showering, and shaving. It's just something you do no matter what.

Exercise is also the way you develop energy. Like Ralph Waldo Emerson said, the world belongs to the energetic.

I can promise you one thing: People will treat you better when you look fit and competent.

In my life I have been skinny fat and I have been fit and muscular.

Here's what I learned…

When you're skinny you're just a regular person, when you're fat you look lazy, beta and stupid, when you're muscled up you become something more and people treat you as something more.

To be the best you can be requires you to develop your body to the best of its ability.

Remember, physical development is not exactly the same thing as exercising.

Exercise is what you do for your heart and your mind, physical development is what you do to make your body look like Zeus and you cannot die without trying to looking like Zeus at least once.

"It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable" - Socrates.

2) Don't use drugs and don't drink alcohol regularly

To be a great man of business you must always be of a calm, clear mind.

There is no other way to say it but to say it plainly: drugs and alcohol will ruin you if you make a habit of using them regularly. Regularly is every week as far as I'm concerned.

This is one area where I really do recommend moderation or total abstinence if you're not able to do moderation.

 A glass of wine with dinner is fine. A few beers with the fellas every few weeks is no problem too.

Making a habit of getting and being intoxicated every week is not.

Alcohol slows you down like nothing else. Hung over the first day, 70% the next day, 90% the day after that. That's what? 2-3 days out of the week you're not at your best?

WTF man, stop being stupid.

PT Barnum said it well:

As no man can succeed in business unless he has a brain to enable him to lay his plans, and reason to guide him in their execution, so, no matter how bountifully a man may be blessed with intelligence, if the brain is muddled, and his judgment warped by intoxicating drinks, it is impossible for him to carry on business successfully.”

Nearly all mentally ill and depressed people have a problem with drugs and alcohol.

Here are a few people who loved drugs and alcohol (notice how they ended up):

• Kurt Cobain
• Liam Payne
• Jimi Hendrix
• Chester Bennington
• Chris Cornell
• Layne Staley
• Heath Ledger

Everybody who stays in the party scene can expect a) their minds to turn to mush and b) to one day wake up in jail, the nuthouse, the intensive care unit, or the morgue where they won't wake up at all.

Jail is the best you can hope for when you play around with the hard stuff and that is why so many jailbirds say “I go to jail to clean up.”

Spending your life wasted is just wasting your life.

Don't make the mistake of thinking I am speaking of performance enhancing drugs, I am speaking only of performance decreasing drugs.

Performance enhancing drugs are almost a necessity in this world.

3) Maintain high testosterone and low estrogen levels

Ah testosterone, a weird thing you have to start paying attention to as you age.

Hormones are everything and you need to maintain healthy testosterone levels to feel your best.

This becomes ever more important as you age.

...but no matter your age, if you're feeling like shit all the time: tired, have difficulty putting on muscle, low energy and libido and you're doing everything right (you're not fat, you life weights, eat natural food, steak and eggs, and are not a chronic drinker).

You may have a hormone issue. So get your blood work done to see what your levels are and if you're healthy.

Then do things to optimize your testosterone levels.

I would suggest checking out the following:

The Definitive Testosterone Replacement Therapy MANual - Best resource on the topic.

Tongkat ali - natural testosterone boosting supplement.

35 Ways to boost testosterone naturally - Free ebook with helpful, actionable advice from AJ Cortes (give him a follow).